“Using a bedwetting alarm did not work for my 8 year old son. We used it for two weeks last year but he never heard it or got up when it sounded. So we stopped it and are searching for another solution”.
Using a bedwetting alarm correctly makes all the difference between success and “failure”. Used correctly, bedwetting alarms can cure bedwetting in more than 80% of the children who use them. Re-try using the bedwetting alarm if your son is motivated to end his bedwetting.
Here are 4 tips to help:
Learn about what to expect.
Most children sleep through the loud sound or can’t process what they need to do when they wake to the alarm. This is a normal response. Remember, in the beginning the alarm should also alert parents. When you hear the alarm, go to your son’s room. Help him get the alarm turned off and walk to the bathroom. Even though it seems that he is “sleeping through” the alarm, behavioral conditioning will work to help his brain begin to make the connection of the sound and getting up. My book, Seven Steps to Nighttime Dryness, will walk you through what to expect.
Be patient. Two weeks is not long enough.
Everyone wants to see dry nights immediately! Behavioral conditioning is a process and takes time. The average child takes 8-12 weeks to become permanently dry. Little signs of progress can be observed on the road to dryness. Seeing your son hear and respond to the alarm is a sign of progress. Having smaller wet spots in bed, with urine left to empty in the toilet, is progress. Then dry nights begin happening. At first, sporadic dry nights, then for more nights in a row. Be patient and persistent!
Choose the right style of alarm.
You didn’t mention the style of alarm that you used last year, but your son must use one that is comfortable for him, that he does not un-hook during the night, and that consistently sounds when it senses wetness. The Rodger wireless alarm has special underwear that has the sensor built in. Wireless alarms require that the user get out of bed to turn the sound off. The Malem Multi-Choice alarm allows you to record your voice or play tones and vibrate. If he refused to use the alarm or disconnected it, ask him what he did not like and choose a different style.
Pick the best time to use an alarm.
Solving bedwetting is a family project. Parents have to be involved so make sure you choose a time when you can lose a little sleep, aren’t overloaded with work responsibilities and your family isn’t overcommitted. Discuss with your son his level of motivation and that you’re in this together. Develop a plan of action and let him know you’ll help for as long as it takes to get 14 consecutive nights of dryness.